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Five false beliefs about parenting
Beliefs and the facts
I thought: The feelings of a mother expecting a baby alone, important
Second thought: I do not need a new baby to his father
Third thought: I do not know how the man cares about children
Belief IV: the man who focuses on the child does not succeed in his career
Belief V: your destiny to be Kowaldk
How to go beyond the five common beliefs about parenting?
Beliefs and the factsIf you are a parent or waiting for a new baby first, it must be you have some beliefs and ideas about parenting. These ideas are rooted through your own experiences with your father and believes that society expects from you as a parent. Unfortunately, we can not test these hypotheses and determine the truth, but as a parent more depth in the perceptions and expectations about parenthood and tried to absorb it, as was the opportunity for greater access to the image of the father that he wishes.
Perhaps the most common belief is that there is one definition for "the perfect father." But fatherhood is not something canned and ready. You have the ability, vision, and you can develop your explanation on this concept in a way suitable for your needs and requirements of your family. Changed man and develops its own identity as a parent from the time with his wife and even the early years of the life of his child. Here are five common beliefs and the facts behind them:
I thought: The feelings of a mother expecting a baby alone, importantChange your wife's body during pregnancy, focusing on the process of reproduction to believe that the feelings of the mother and the only thing that matters. There is no doubt that your anxiety on the psychological and physical health is essential during pregnancy and after childbirth, but also a place for your feelings.Easy to talk to the man who waits for a baby the positive aspects of parenthood. But it becomes more difficult to address the feelings of fear and anxiety that haunted. Do I'd fainted during the birth? Will any health complications? Will our relationship in the post-birth? I will continue to do my job and play the role of a father who wanted him at the same time?
You need your wife to share your feelings. Many of the men conceal their fears about pregnancy and parenthood because they do not want to increase the fears of their wives. Do not worry about overloading it. Most women mastered this type of communication with your spouse and know that the challenges of fatherhood. The revealing Bmkhaovk to your wife Ikrbakma of Bedkma.
You can also communicate with other men waiting for a baby. Read a good book for parenting, for example. Do not hesitate to express their feelings of vulnerability and the ever growing enthusiasm about the subject. If continued to play the role of the strong man, will lose communication with a large part of your personality. But if you expressed your concerns during pregnancy and in the first phase of parenthood, you crash the common belief that men are not accompanied by his wife during this process.Second thought: I do not need a new baby to his fatherWill make you strong relationship between your wife and newborn baby, especially if you breastfeed your child asks about the need for you actually. There is no doubt that he needs you. You are an important person in his life and assure him sit with you and make him feel safe. In order to establish a close relationship with your child, hold it between your arms, and sing lullabies to him and whisper a few words, but when you have to eat and satiety so you get full attention. The wait before eating of attention, will help your wife to take some rest after feeding.
You can help feed your baby if your wife is pumping milk and put it in the bottle (the bottle) or if you decide to resort to artificial milk as a supplement to breast milk. You can also help your child indirectly through the support of your wife in the burdens of daily life, thus easing the pressure and it allows them to enjoy a period of more relaxed with her. Remember that your participation makes a difference for the whole family.
Third thought: I do not know how the man cares about childrenThese prevent the big lie of the father to establish a relationship with the child and cause anxiety in the mother's new fears that her husband is unable to take care of new born. Until the child's doctor "Spock" His best-selling book, warned in his first book of the father generally "inept" in dealing with the child. However, he changed his mind in the subsequent editions, and you can also do the same. We know today that father can child care. Mother and father both learn to how to Besgerhma attention. And you will know what the needs of your child if you spent time with him.
Belief IV: the man who focuses on the child does not succeed in his careerOften convince men that the work is the only source to obtain respect for the ocean and the community. The indirect message behind this that the man who offers sacrifices and choose family on professional development but do it because he is incapable of success in his career. However, we are seeing today the beginning of a shift in cultural norms in society. The number of men who find the meaning of fatherhood for the site which enhances their parents. Even some men to abandon their professional advancement to spend more time with their families because they like the sense of fatherhood, not because they are professionally qualified. Also increased the number of men who are considered to play the role of the father is the ideal completion of an essential in their lives.
Belief V: your destiny to be KowaldkYou will know the value of your father when you become parents. It is natural to think that you will follow in the footsteps of your father in matters of good and bad alike. But is not necessary to be your father, your example in the first issue of paternity. It is a small part of the image of the Father that you want for yourself. Look for other models I met her in your life including the professors, colleagues, friends, and your uncle or your uncle, and siblings and the fact that the identity of a parent.
There is no evidence of paternity form one model. It is different in different civilizations and cultures. In some African cultures, "Father" is a group of men, not one individual. Build community identity of paternity in order to meet the needs of individual cultures. This is exactly what he did to our ancestors. For them, the father is the one who believes in the ideal of the family shelter, food and education. It is likely that our fathers did not spend time with us that we want Pettmdath with our children. However, they did what they consider to be good for us as family and social needs that were prevalent in their time.
You also must choose the most appropriate for your family. Considered parental role evolves gradually with you discover more about this role. You can maintain the positive aspects that characterized the family and add a personal touch to your approach and the Private.
How to go beyond the five common beliefs about parenting?1 - Take your time in thinking about the impact of parenthood on you and your life. Share feelings with your spouse or parents with new or other men waiting for a baby
2 - hugged your child, and sing lullabies and spoke with him since his birth
3 - for example, learn how to feed him and be a part of daily life
4 - Think of the sacrifices that you have in your career to spend more time with your child
5 - Take the best of your father and your teachers, your colleagues, friends and relatives to configure the identity of a parent. Everyone can be cared for example of a good example for him.
Beliefs and the facts
I thought: The feelings of a mother expecting a baby alone, important
Second thought: I do not need a new baby to his father
Third thought: I do not know how the man cares about children
Belief IV: the man who focuses on the child does not succeed in his career
Belief V: your destiny to be Kowaldk
How to go beyond the five common beliefs about parenting?
Beliefs and the factsIf you are a parent or waiting for a new baby first, it must be you have some beliefs and ideas about parenting. These ideas are rooted through your own experiences with your father and believes that society expects from you as a parent. Unfortunately, we can not test these hypotheses and determine the truth, but as a parent more depth in the perceptions and expectations about parenthood and tried to absorb it, as was the opportunity for greater access to the image of the father that he wishes.
Perhaps the most common belief is that there is one definition for "the perfect father." But fatherhood is not something canned and ready. You have the ability, vision, and you can develop your explanation on this concept in a way suitable for your needs and requirements of your family. Changed man and develops its own identity as a parent from the time with his wife and even the early years of the life of his child. Here are five common beliefs and the facts behind them:
I thought: The feelings of a mother expecting a baby alone, importantChange your wife's body during pregnancy, focusing on the process of reproduction to believe that the feelings of the mother and the only thing that matters. There is no doubt that your anxiety on the psychological and physical health is essential during pregnancy and after childbirth, but also a place for your feelings.Easy to talk to the man who waits for a baby the positive aspects of parenthood. But it becomes more difficult to address the feelings of fear and anxiety that haunted. Do I'd fainted during the birth? Will any health complications? Will our relationship in the post-birth? I will continue to do my job and play the role of a father who wanted him at the same time?
You need your wife to share your feelings. Many of the men conceal their fears about pregnancy and parenthood because they do not want to increase the fears of their wives. Do not worry about overloading it. Most women mastered this type of communication with your spouse and know that the challenges of fatherhood. The revealing Bmkhaovk to your wife Ikrbakma of Bedkma.
You can also communicate with other men waiting for a baby. Read a good book for parenting, for example. Do not hesitate to express their feelings of vulnerability and the ever growing enthusiasm about the subject. If continued to play the role of the strong man, will lose communication with a large part of your personality. But if you expressed your concerns during pregnancy and in the first phase of parenthood, you crash the common belief that men are not accompanied by his wife during this process.Second thought: I do not need a new baby to his fatherWill make you strong relationship between your wife and newborn baby, especially if you breastfeed your child asks about the need for you actually. There is no doubt that he needs you. You are an important person in his life and assure him sit with you and make him feel safe. In order to establish a close relationship with your child, hold it between your arms, and sing lullabies to him and whisper a few words, but when you have to eat and satiety so you get full attention. The wait before eating of attention, will help your wife to take some rest after feeding.
You can help feed your baby if your wife is pumping milk and put it in the bottle (the bottle) or if you decide to resort to artificial milk as a supplement to breast milk. You can also help your child indirectly through the support of your wife in the burdens of daily life, thus easing the pressure and it allows them to enjoy a period of more relaxed with her. Remember that your participation makes a difference for the whole family.
Third thought: I do not know how the man cares about childrenThese prevent the big lie of the father to establish a relationship with the child and cause anxiety in the mother's new fears that her husband is unable to take care of new born. Until the child's doctor "Spock" His best-selling book, warned in his first book of the father generally "inept" in dealing with the child. However, he changed his mind in the subsequent editions, and you can also do the same. We know today that father can child care. Mother and father both learn to how to Besgerhma attention. And you will know what the needs of your child if you spent time with him.
Belief IV: the man who focuses on the child does not succeed in his careerOften convince men that the work is the only source to obtain respect for the ocean and the community. The indirect message behind this that the man who offers sacrifices and choose family on professional development but do it because he is incapable of success in his career. However, we are seeing today the beginning of a shift in cultural norms in society. The number of men who find the meaning of fatherhood for the site which enhances their parents. Even some men to abandon their professional advancement to spend more time with their families because they like the sense of fatherhood, not because they are professionally qualified. Also increased the number of men who are considered to play the role of the father is the ideal completion of an essential in their lives.
Belief V: your destiny to be KowaldkYou will know the value of your father when you become parents. It is natural to think that you will follow in the footsteps of your father in matters of good and bad alike. But is not necessary to be your father, your example in the first issue of paternity. It is a small part of the image of the Father that you want for yourself. Look for other models I met her in your life including the professors, colleagues, friends, and your uncle or your uncle, and siblings and the fact that the identity of a parent.
There is no evidence of paternity form one model. It is different in different civilizations and cultures. In some African cultures, "Father" is a group of men, not one individual. Build community identity of paternity in order to meet the needs of individual cultures. This is exactly what he did to our ancestors. For them, the father is the one who believes in the ideal of the family shelter, food and education. It is likely that our fathers did not spend time with us that we want Pettmdath with our children. However, they did what they consider to be good for us as family and social needs that were prevalent in their time.
You also must choose the most appropriate for your family. Considered parental role evolves gradually with you discover more about this role. You can maintain the positive aspects that characterized the family and add a personal touch to your approach and the Private.
How to go beyond the five common beliefs about parenting?1 - Take your time in thinking about the impact of parenthood on you and your life. Share feelings with your spouse or parents with new or other men waiting for a baby
2 - hugged your child, and sing lullabies and spoke with him since his birth
3 - for example, learn how to feed him and be a part of daily life
4 - Think of the sacrifices that you have in your career to spend more time with your child
5 - Take the best of your father and your teachers, your colleagues, friends and relatives to configure the identity of a parent. Everyone can be cared for example of a good example for him.
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